November 28, 2005

Of Religion, Spirituality and Godman !

The first thing I do in the morning is to get that day’s newspaper and head directly to the loo. Around a week back or so there was this four-page supplement along with The Hindu dedicated to satya sai baba on His birthday. That left me wondering about this self proclaimed God. Does he really deserves a full four pages of coverage in a news paper none other than the stature of The Hindu, which surely is class apart from the ilk of TOIs and DCs. That led me to some search on net about sai baba and others of same genre. And came across quite a good amount of controversy about him.

This post is not about if this guy is right or wrong. Rather I think I put forward my point of view on matters related to this. I wont argue if there is God or not and any such non conclusive debate issues. This will be about why they believe in them.

I think every human being is a seeker in some way or other. Some how every body wants to understand oneself and ones relation with everybody else in the larger scheme of nature. And in this endeavor some seek help of some external teacher and other resort to some kind of rational thinking and analysis to reach to a logical conclusion and still there are some who don’t want to head in any direction. I myself fall in second category. They say education helps you to become rational and logical but I don’t think education has anything to do with the belief and faith, otherwise how do you explain the premier of Indian state being a devotee of some self proclaimed God. Even some of my professionally educated friends consider him God and are part of that educated middle class from which most of the follower of sai baba comes. So I don’t think education has anything to do with belief even if that is blind faith. I am not here to ridicule or mock their feelings , but I want to understand the psychology behind the same.

My take on the issue is , as I mentioned earlier that perhaps its human quest to achieve self awakening and self realization , and in that if one still have some unanswered questions then they seek some external help in the form of God or Godman or some religious guru. And once they feel that this particular association can help them in understanding the larger scheme and their relation with the same , they tend to form a kind of bonding and with that generates a faith , a belief in them . And once you start believing in some thing at times you may overlook reasoning. But what the heck as long as your association or lack of it , brings happiness , understanding and satisfaction in your life nothing else matters.

A passing thought. Isn’t their faith in God and God’s will act as shock absorber in many cases, when in a person in a particular situation considers that as the will of God and accepts the same however drastic the situation may be. This certainly helps in moving forward. But for me and other lesser mortal and non believer, if I can term it that way ,like me who does not seek any thing external to ourselves to understand one self and our relation with the larger scheme in nature are doing equally good , if not better.
In the end beliefe or the lack of it remains the same. Faith does not listens to reason.

Stay Hungry,Stay foolish.

Give up but dont give in!

They say, don’t give up yaar. But at times you have to. You gotta accept your limitations and understand your capabilities. Being realistic is not being defeatist. I dream you dream and every body dreams. But that has to be realistic, I cannot possibly give any competition to SRK :-0) but yes I can do something which he or for that matter many others cannot do. I have that believe in my capabilities and me. But at the same time you have to be realistic in your expectations. So this is all about understanding your limitations and accepting the same. Some things are not in your hand but whatever is in your hand you have to do that, and do that best.

November 17, 2005

Being a Woman !

Woman : one of the most prized creation of the nature ! Nature had created both male and female as complementory to each other , to serve certain specific purpose on this earth. I percieve them to be equal yet unequal. The unequality lies in the anotomy and to a certain extent thought processes owing to the natural differences of two species.
I have been thinking of starting a blog for quite a sometime , but procastination :0). I have been a regular visitor of blogosphere.And today i came across few blogs with posts on woman with quite a few intresting ideas and thoughts. And then i decided into taking a plunge in the much talked about blog word. And here i am utilising the freedom bestowed upon we humanfolk by MD Linthicum. Being born and brought up in India , rather north India , my views can be guided by the social structure of the same. And much of my ideas and thoughts are guided by Indian culture. And in the private space of the web I'll try to focus more on issues than on events.
With the increased female litracy and associated wider exposure and refind thought process the great Indian middle class (I being from a middle class family can relate more with this part of indian population) started treating both boy and girl at par. There are some inevitable differences , which the humankind dont have control over , we all need to accept and acknowledge these. But apart from them I believe male and female are and should be equal in all respects (softer skills). Other differences comes from the upbringing and the social structure we are part of from birth till death. And lets admit it , we , as in the male chauvinist indian society still consider girls as second fiddle to boys. And though the society as such is male dominated , the situation more or less is accepted and encouraged by females as well. They usually resigned to the fact that they have to be behind males. And they accept it whole heartedly.Which i think should change . Equality means , equality in all spheres. We gotta share responsibily and as there is nothing as male domain or female domain , both of them should understand and appreciate nuances of each other and female folks should consider themselves at par with males. This may bruise some male ego , but we have to keep it aside. The development and growth of family , society and nation will come from equality. And i believe both of us are equally responsible to make it happen.
When a guy reaches marriagable age an oft repeated question to them is which one you prefer as wife , a homemaker or a cow. I anytime prefer an ambisious person . As boys and girls , all are well educated , and that too professionally , it does not make sense for a person , usually girl , to stay back at home . For me satisfaction is doing something which give me sense of accomplishment.If i have ambitions and carreer aspiration , my wife could as well have and she should pursue the same.I am not undermining the home making an easy task but the fact now is , we dont need that kind of attention and physical presence required earlier , say 10-15 years back , to complete daily house hold chores . Its not worth for a person to remain unproductive for quite a significant chunck of time daily.
It would be definatly not easy when they start family.But i think with proper understanding and shared responsibility a couple can do that.Though the desicion of taking up and pursuing career or doning the role of home maker is very individualistic and personal for any girl , that should be informed decision without some kindda sacrifice string attached . My emphasis remain on the shared responsibility. And moreover any decision should be well informed and without any regret.
Carreer is one of the most important decision a well educated girl should take. But this is what finally brought me to the world of blogging today. I never knew , at least this wasnt the case in and around my family, if that was the case unless some freak incident happend in the college. But isnt that ridiculous.I feel womanfolks have to break this and any other such mental blocks. I subscribe to this fitting reaction. My views on religion sometime later.
I see fairer sex in very high spirit and have very respect for them. I usually avoid regular guy talks regarding girls. Consider this : she had put put on inviting dress and hence its the mistake of girl if boys misbehave with her. And all those dirl friend and wife material story.Gimme a break guys. We all have freedom to chose and live life.Just because you are boys you cannot blame girls for being enticing and something. You better have control over your adrnalin flow.Please stop treating girls as commodity. And i feel this commodity mentality is what even girls subscribe to. See this : dont follw her , she is already booked. Booked ? How demeaning . Is she a tv or something. And this coming from a friend of mine , girl , suggests that even girls are not sitting back ank taking note of the same.These things are so common place that i think even girls are taking these as normal.
But thats not correct.Change this mentality.I really feel girls are equally responsible for the prevailing situation by accepting them.They gotta break free. The conventional and traditional way not neccessarily right. Sit back , think and react. We have to differentiate good from bad and ugly.
something i admire about girls are their emotinal strength.Contrary to popular believe i feel that girls are emotionally more stronger than boys.
Ummm,,there are many ideas but i think i m lacking coherancy.May be i'll put togather my thoughts and come back soon. One thing is sure : being woman is not easy.
Stay Hungry,Stay foolish.