November 28, 2005

Of Religion, Spirituality and Godman !

The first thing I do in the morning is to get that day’s newspaper and head directly to the loo. Around a week back or so there was this four-page supplement along with The Hindu dedicated to satya sai baba on His birthday. That left me wondering about this self proclaimed God. Does he really deserves a full four pages of coverage in a news paper none other than the stature of The Hindu, which surely is class apart from the ilk of TOIs and DCs. That led me to some search on net about sai baba and others of same genre. And came across quite a good amount of controversy about him.

This post is not about if this guy is right or wrong. Rather I think I put forward my point of view on matters related to this. I wont argue if there is God or not and any such non conclusive debate issues. This will be about why they believe in them.

I think every human being is a seeker in some way or other. Some how every body wants to understand oneself and ones relation with everybody else in the larger scheme of nature. And in this endeavor some seek help of some external teacher and other resort to some kind of rational thinking and analysis to reach to a logical conclusion and still there are some who don’t want to head in any direction. I myself fall in second category. They say education helps you to become rational and logical but I don’t think education has anything to do with the belief and faith, otherwise how do you explain the premier of Indian state being a devotee of some self proclaimed God. Even some of my professionally educated friends consider him God and are part of that educated middle class from which most of the follower of sai baba comes. So I don’t think education has anything to do with belief even if that is blind faith. I am not here to ridicule or mock their feelings , but I want to understand the psychology behind the same.

My take on the issue is , as I mentioned earlier that perhaps its human quest to achieve self awakening and self realization , and in that if one still have some unanswered questions then they seek some external help in the form of God or Godman or some religious guru. And once they feel that this particular association can help them in understanding the larger scheme and their relation with the same , they tend to form a kind of bonding and with that generates a faith , a belief in them . And once you start believing in some thing at times you may overlook reasoning. But what the heck as long as your association or lack of it , brings happiness , understanding and satisfaction in your life nothing else matters.

A passing thought. Isn’t their faith in God and God’s will act as shock absorber in many cases, when in a person in a particular situation considers that as the will of God and accepts the same however drastic the situation may be. This certainly helps in moving forward. But for me and other lesser mortal and non believer, if I can term it that way ,like me who does not seek any thing external to ourselves to understand one self and our relation with the larger scheme in nature are doing equally good , if not better.
In the end beliefe or the lack of it remains the same. Faith does not listens to reason.

Stay Hungry,Stay foolish.

Give up but dont give in!

They say, don’t give up yaar. But at times you have to. You gotta accept your limitations and understand your capabilities. Being realistic is not being defeatist. I dream you dream and every body dreams. But that has to be realistic, I cannot possibly give any competition to SRK :-0) but yes I can do something which he or for that matter many others cannot do. I have that believe in my capabilities and me. But at the same time you have to be realistic in your expectations. So this is all about understanding your limitations and accepting the same. Some things are not in your hand but whatever is in your hand you have to do that, and do that best.

November 17, 2005

Being a Woman !

Woman : one of the most prized creation of the nature ! Nature had created both male and female as complementory to each other , to serve certain specific purpose on this earth. I percieve them to be equal yet unequal. The unequality lies in the anotomy and to a certain extent thought processes owing to the natural differences of two species.
I have been thinking of starting a blog for quite a sometime , but procastination :0). I have been a regular visitor of blogosphere.And today i came across few blogs with posts on woman with quite a few intresting ideas and thoughts. And then i decided into taking a plunge in the much talked about blog word. And here i am utilising the freedom bestowed upon we humanfolk by MD Linthicum. Being born and brought up in India , rather north India , my views can be guided by the social structure of the same. And much of my ideas and thoughts are guided by Indian culture. And in the private space of the web I'll try to focus more on issues than on events.
With the increased female litracy and associated wider exposure and refind thought process the great Indian middle class (I being from a middle class family can relate more with this part of indian population) started treating both boy and girl at par. There are some inevitable differences , which the humankind dont have control over , we all need to accept and acknowledge these. But apart from them I believe male and female are and should be equal in all respects (softer skills). Other differences comes from the upbringing and the social structure we are part of from birth till death. And lets admit it , we , as in the male chauvinist indian society still consider girls as second fiddle to boys. And though the society as such is male dominated , the situation more or less is accepted and encouraged by females as well. They usually resigned to the fact that they have to be behind males. And they accept it whole heartedly.Which i think should change . Equality means , equality in all spheres. We gotta share responsibily and as there is nothing as male domain or female domain , both of them should understand and appreciate nuances of each other and female folks should consider themselves at par with males. This may bruise some male ego , but we have to keep it aside. The development and growth of family , society and nation will come from equality. And i believe both of us are equally responsible to make it happen.
When a guy reaches marriagable age an oft repeated question to them is which one you prefer as wife , a homemaker or a cow. I anytime prefer an ambisious person . As boys and girls , all are well educated , and that too professionally , it does not make sense for a person , usually girl , to stay back at home . For me satisfaction is doing something which give me sense of accomplishment.If i have ambitions and carreer aspiration , my wife could as well have and she should pursue the same.I am not undermining the home making an easy task but the fact now is , we dont need that kind of attention and physical presence required earlier , say 10-15 years back , to complete daily house hold chores . Its not worth for a person to remain unproductive for quite a significant chunck of time daily.
It would be definatly not easy when they start family.But i think with proper understanding and shared responsibility a couple can do that.Though the desicion of taking up and pursuing career or doning the role of home maker is very individualistic and personal for any girl , that should be informed decision without some kindda sacrifice string attached . My emphasis remain on the shared responsibility. And moreover any decision should be well informed and without any regret.
Carreer is one of the most important decision a well educated girl should take. But this is what finally brought me to the world of blogging today. I never knew , at least this wasnt the case in and around my family, if that was the case unless some freak incident happend in the college. But isnt that ridiculous.I feel womanfolks have to break this and any other such mental blocks. I subscribe to this fitting reaction. My views on religion sometime later.
I see fairer sex in very high spirit and have very respect for them. I usually avoid regular guy talks regarding girls. Consider this : she had put put on inviting dress and hence its the mistake of girl if boys misbehave with her. And all those dirl friend and wife material story.Gimme a break guys. We all have freedom to chose and live life.Just because you are boys you cannot blame girls for being enticing and something. You better have control over your adrnalin flow.Please stop treating girls as commodity. And i feel this commodity mentality is what even girls subscribe to. See this : dont follw her , she is already booked. Booked ? How demeaning . Is she a tv or something. And this coming from a friend of mine , girl , suggests that even girls are not sitting back ank taking note of the same.These things are so common place that i think even girls are taking these as normal.
But thats not correct.Change this mentality.I really feel girls are equally responsible for the prevailing situation by accepting them.They gotta break free. The conventional and traditional way not neccessarily right. Sit back , think and react. We have to differentiate good from bad and ugly.
something i admire about girls are their emotinal strength.Contrary to popular believe i feel that girls are emotionally more stronger than boys.
Ummm,,there are many ideas but i think i m lacking coherancy.May be i'll put togather my thoughts and come back soon. One thing is sure : being woman is not easy.
Stay Hungry,Stay foolish.

August 14, 2005

Copy pasted :o)

Some funde from the post of a person whome i known for brief time.
1. Dont let anyone disturb you.
2. Dont take it to heart.
3. Dont carry it too far.

Dial 1098!

Dial 1098

When you see a child
in distress.

Written on the t-shirt of this small boy , hardly 10-12 years old , sweeping the floor clean in one compartment of the train i took home.India shining ??

Ayn Rand and J K Rowling !

Two women novelist and my both favourite. At the one end Ayn Rand wrote philosophy , creator of Howard Roark and John Galt and the other end Rowling with her Potter thing. I am a big time fan of Harry Potter.
Why these two are my fav?
Ayn Rand :
I just love the characters of Gail Wynand , Dagny taggert , Hank Reardon, Francisco d'Anconia. Some for the way they worked there way up and other for there sheer grit and determination and intelliegence. Strange enough my favourite character is neither Howard Roark nor John Galt.
J K Rowling:
More than the imagination she has used in the novel this is the friendship element among Harry , Ron and Hermione I admire.

Kindda different ? Who is John Galt , anyway ?

Why ?

# People become more important after death than when they are alive.
# Caste consideration is still around , and i am not talking about politics.
# Even when we are paying for something , we dont demand better service.
# We take things with chalta hai attitude.
# We tend to hurt them who matter to us most.
# We take these peopel for granted.
# We wait for some occasion to let these people that they matter to us.
# We usually hold back appreciation.
# Most of the time we dont mean when we say thank you/sorry.
# Descipline can not come at individual level.

Funda !

Plan - Execute - Feedback (reviews/milestones checking) - Adjustment - Execute.

June 4, 2005

It Feels Good.

Some time a small gesture makes you feel good. The other day I received this sms from bhabhi. Apart from general things she told as these are days of extreme heat I should take care and take nimbu paani regulary. How sweet :).

Share It!

Somewhere I read that your happiness increases and your unhappiness decreases when you share them with somebody. And I just cannot tell you how true is this. For the last couple of months things were not working out well, agree those were created by me only and I was making myself suffer (As they say everything is there in your mind , the way you react makes vulnerable or strong in the given situation).

I shared my emotional worries and insecurities with one of my friend, my sis and my dad. And voila, I am feeling much better. I just can’t tell how relieved I am these days. All these days I knew that my suffering is self created and did not hold any ground. At the first place I want very sure about my feelings for her. I myself could never justify the special place she had developed in my life. I was never convinced myself , and during those days I remember the intense fight between my head and heart. And predictably heart won :o) . O kahte hain na heart wants , what it want. There is no logic . Now even I can vouch for the same :-D. Even after I confessed the development of soft corner for her and her saying that as nothing ahead was possible she didn’t encourage me to pursue her , I think my feelings for her didnt subdue and mebbe i was hoping against the hope for things to turn my way.On the surface I thought we were friends but deep within i might have been waiting for her to come my way , mebbe , god nows. But sure enough heart still had upper hand in this matter and the result all the below posts. But now no longer. Abhi apun bindaas .Though I do have strong feelings for her , but now no tension , no worries. Everything is positive now. As they say jo hota hai achche ke liye hota hai. Yes I do believe in that. I am a positive man after all :).

Best Ever Trip To Home :)

Spent 3 days at home and this was the best trip ever to home. It was after 2 and half years we all were at home and all of us were free this time to enjoy ourselves to the max. We even visited the village were we spent some 4-5 years in our early childhood.

And haan this time I took flight to home :o).

May 16, 2005

Accept them as they are !

More than taking a stand it seems accepting people as they are makes life easier. People dont act and react the way you do , and expecting them to behave the way you do would be nothing less than foolishness .There are differences and thats what make beauty of relations. Make all the expectations null and void , detach yourself and accept those around you the way they are , life will be easy. It seems I think , therfore I am dangerous :o) . Let go off all expectation and enjoy life as it comes , no setting of standards and comparision. Not atleast in relations. One thing I feel is expectations are image of yourself , its kindda had I been at your place I would have acted or reacted in this particular way in the given situation , and you start attaching expectation which is not only wrong but also undesirable as people are unique in their own way , and now I understand that this uniqueness makes spices of the life . Good learning buddy :o) . Now I am at peace with myself . Atlast this seems true mental peace.
We cannot go back in time to change things but we can always make new beginning .

April 30, 2005

Should a book be written ?

The other day i was sitting with some of my friends in the cafe odyssy discussing things in general. The discussion steered to the book " Five point someone" written by some ex-iitian about things not to do at IIT. That was quite a good discussion on the target readers and other stuff.One of my friend , Goofy , himself from IIT Madras , came up with this idea of writting a book titled " Without a girl friend - even after IIT". At that time we didnt take him seriously but this guy really seems to be serious. Read his post here.